The Scandinavian sleep method
Thankfully, there is a solution and it’s quite simple, really: the so-called Scandinavian sleep method – two doonas, one bed!
Not only does each person get their own cosy blanket to snuggle up in, but you can choose your own tog rating. Hot and sweaty sleepers can choose a thinner blanket, while cold sleepers can go for a heavy one.
If you’re worried that sleeping with separate doonas will negatively impact your relationship, think again. Having your own blanket actually means getting more sleep, which is better for everyone in the long run.
Speaking to Refinery 29, Neil Stanley, an independent sleep expert and author of How To Sleep Well, says not getting enough sleep can cause higher rates of divorce.
"There's actually a strong link between poor sleep and higher rates of divorce, so staying in bed with somebody who annoys you is going to cause you to probably have a worse relationship rather than be a sign of the strength of your relationship," he says.
Neil also makes a very excellent point about being selfish when it comes to your sleep.
“Separate duvets can threaten that sense of oneness or intimacy because of the cultural standard we set ourselves, but the most important thing about sleep is getting a good night's sleep. Sleep is the most selfish thing you can do,” he says.
“You can't share your sleep – you can change your intimacy but you can't share your sleep.
“When you're sleeping, prioritise your sleep! All the rest of the time, prioritise your relationship."
How to make a bed with two doonas
Making a bed with two doonas is easier than you think. Depending on the size of your bed and doonas, you can either place the doonas next to each other on the bed, or fold them in half and pop them side-by-side.
Another option is to buy a full-size blanket to pull over the top of both doonas!
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