4. Say what?
Examine your self-talk; it’s powerful stuff. Is there a Negative Nelly inside your head who loves to trash-talk you? She whispers things like ‘I’m not good enough’, ‘I’m not worthy’, ‘I am ugly’, ‘I am stupid’. Girlfriend, Nelly is a big liar who needs to be sent packing! Daily (hourly!) positive affirmations can help enormously. Affirmations are encouraging messages we give ourselves to bolster self-worth. With regular practice, they become part of our truth. Imagine you are talking to a friend because you wouldn’t let a friend speak poorly about herself. Here are a few to try:
• I respect myself
• I am worthy
• I am good enough
• I am likable and lovable
• I deserve good things
• I accept myself, flaws and all
• I am beautiful, inside and out
5. Redefine failure
You made a mistake? Welcome, fellow human! Every failure is a chance to improve, learn and grow. Ergo, there is no such thing as failure. Make more mistakes!
6. Practise simple gratitude
Once you resolve to stop comparing yourself unfavourably with others, get up and take a walk around your home. What do you have? Do you have running water, electricity, food in the fridge? That’s a bounty of riches right there. Learn to feel grateful instead of like you are lacking.
7. Take care of you!
Nothing inspires positive self-worth quite like the kick you get from nurturing your body with wholesome food, regular exercise and quality sleep. It says ‘I care enough about me to put me first.’ When you bring that ‘A’ game, trash-talkin’ Nelly doesn’t stand a chance. You win.
8. Step away from the credit card
There’s a lot of pressure on us to have All The Things: new car, renovated kitchen, latest tech gadget, whatever. The ‘less than’ monster feeds off this stuff and plants the fear that if we don’t have All The Things, we will be excluded from the cool group because it proves just how inferior we really are. (What? You still have a flip phone? Your car is 10 years old? Eww! So not being your friend.) See? Ridiculous. The pursuit of shiny new things will never make you happier, just deeper in debt. Strive to be content in your own skin, head and heart. Who or what lifts your spirits and reaffirms your faith in humanity? Pursue those things first and foremost.